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Perhaps you’ll be surprised to find out that what you think is an empty love is one that your partner finds has more passion and intimacy than you realize. The seven "types" are simply seven fixed points within the triangle.Or you may find out that the relationship you think is consummate is one that your partner finds lacking in one of the three crucial dimensions. The vast majority of relationships will not sit on the same point as one of these types. What are you to think if you do not "fit in the box"?Psychology continues to struggle with the question of how to define love, and after decades of research, is no closer to the ultimate answer.However, the triangular theory of love proposed by University of Wyoming Robert Sternberg provides a fascinating and useful framework.
You remain close and connected, very sexually and romantically in sync, and are completely committed to each other and to your relationship. You have been together for only a couple of months, and although you feel you have become close and are connected emotionally, you have yet to become passionately involved or think about your future commitment. You are in love and have a strong sexual desire for one another, are very close and connected emotionally, but have yet to discuss any future plans that would include a decision to commit only to each other. You have been together for a while and are planning on staying together. Research on long-term relationships suggests, further, that passion in the form of wanting to be near your partner continues to predict a couple’s satisfaction. The triangular theory of love proposes three scales (intimacy, passion and commitment) depicted as a triangle.
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Firstly, that your relationship doesn't necessarily fall within a "type" - and it often won't - but it will always have a "colour", because there's a plentitude of colours, especially if you have finely graded scales (questionnaires with lots of items).
You continue to maintain a healthy and satisfying sex life, but say you do not feel very closely connected where emotion is concerned. You can dial up or down the dimension that’s in need of adjustment by working on that function of your relationship. A relationship has a value on each of these three scales.
If you want to take this even further, ask your relationship partner to take this quick quiz. A relationship is thus defined by its position within the triangle.
There aren't seven types if people experience more!