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Others are single due to the circumstances of their lives.
They may have just gotten out of a meaningful relationship or have dated relentlessly and just haven’t found someone with whom they’re truly compatible.
We benefit from focusing on what we can control and not what we can’t.
We can become aware of the myriad of ways we influence the reactions we get from others, even the negative reactions.
So, the question for the single person looking for love is: what are the internal challenges I need to face?
1) Defenses Most people have been hurt in interpersonal relationships.
A friend of mine felt closed off to a man who pursued her for more than a year.
With time and painful experiences, we all risk building up varying degrees of bitterness and becoming defended.
This process begins long before we start dating, in our childhoods, when hurtful interactions and dynamics lead us to put up walls or perceive the world through a filter that can negatively impact us as adults.
You may then choose a partner who is aloof or distant.
It isn’t always easy to see when we have our defenses up.